Why is it that many traumatic events don’t seem distressing in the moment, but only become apparent days, weeks, or even years later, often during unexpected realizations?
Why is it that many traumatic events don’t seem distressing in the moment, but only become apparent days, weeks, or even years later, often during unexpected realizations?
This phenomenon often relates to how our brain processes and stores memories, especially under stress. During a traumatic event, our body may enter a fight-or-flight response, which can dull our emotional reactions. We might be focused on survival or coping in the moment, leading us to feel detached or numb.
Additionally, trauma can manifest in layers—sometimes the immediate reaction is one of shock or denial, and it takes time for the mind to fully process what happened. Over days, weeks, or years, as we reflect on the event when we are in a more stable emotional state, we can start to understand its impact and piece together the feelings and memories related to it. These “eureka moments” can come when we feel safe enough to confront those emotions or when a related experience triggers the memory.
It’s also important to note that trauma can have long-term effects, and insights often emerge through therapy, self-reflection, or life experiences, allowing us to connect past events with current feelings or behaviors. Each person’s journey through trauma is unique, and the timing of these realizations can vary widely.